"Weird encounter with a fellow player. What is proper gym etiquette?"

#PokemonGO: Sorry for this weird rant but I just had a fairly upsetting conversation with a fellow player and I'm still pretty upset about it and would love for some advice from you more experienced players.I have been playing the game basically since it started but due to having two kids under three and being a full time student, I don't get to spend a lot of time doing raids or battling in gyms, sadly.Tonight I dropped my two year old off with his grandparents and thought it might be a nice time to stop by the gym at a park near my house and either battle for some research rewards or put in one of mine - depending on who currently was in the gym. When I got there it was mystic so I intended to put in one of my pokemon but when I did, it said there was a battle so I waited and planned to do a quick battle for the reward once they won since my baby was crying in the back anyways.Okay so then a guy drives up next to me and indicates I should roll down my window. Thinking I was finally going to meet a fellow pogo player in the wild, I was excited to do so and when he asked me my user name I gladly told him thinking we could have a nice conversation. Then he starts asking me why I knocked his pokemon out of the gym (I hadn't even come close nor intended to). I told him it was blue when I got there and he said no it was red and why was I doing this now instead of to the people who had been there for 8 hours before. I told him I had no idea how long anyone was there and was just trying to enjoy the game. He continued to scold me saying his kids couldn't afford to spend money and no one around here kicks someone out of a gym if they've been there less than 8 hours. Despite the fact that my pokemon get kicked out everywhere all the time within minutes if I put them up, I just said I was sorry he was upset and hope he continues to enjoy the game.Honestly though, it really shook me and kind of made me lose some of the magic the game had before where I thought it was a way for pokemon lovers to share their enjoyment of the game in public.Should I stop trying to take that gym? Did I do something wrong that I didn't understand? I love the game but I wasn't looking to get into a battle with people who might be my neighbors over it. via /r/pokemongo https://ift.tt/2y96LKp